The last time we chatted, I promised to discuss HOW you figure out what to actually work on with your horse once you have made the courageous decision to Lead the Change, AND, if you’re following us, you also know that there has been something exciting in the works for De Frates Horsemanship. I can’t believe that was a month ago already. Well, I appreciate your patience and see no sense in making you wait any longer. First, figuring out what you should work on with your horse is a bit of a process, the first step of which just so happens to be the the next ingredient in that gourmet meal we’ve been calling Leading the Change. Exciting news second ;)
To successfully Lead the Change, and change your relationship with your horse, you need to capture, or document, your dream. I suggest sitting down in front of a fire with a glass of wine and a notepad, but to each their own. Remove all other distractions, like TV and cellphones, so you can be truly present in the moment (see our June 5th post to learn more about the Power of Presence.) Once you are all set up, draw a HUGE circle on a blank page in your notepad, and ask yourself this question.
If I had all the resources I needed: the education, the money, the time, the skill, etc., and none of the limitations I am currently facing, what would I do with my horse?
Fill your circle with your answers and don’t you dare hold back. There are no, “well, I can’t do this because of…” thoughts allowed when you are dreaming. Don’t allow reality to sneak into your circle either. I don’t care if horses can’t fly through the sky and take you to school (was I the only child that dreamed of commuting this way?) if that is your dream, that is YOUR dream; we will deal with the laws of gravity later. I know I’m telling you to dream big, but there are also no dreams too small or too silly. If you’ve always dreamed of your horse stealing an apple pie from your kitchen window, write it down!
Once you’ve exhausted all your dreams, the big, the small, and the silly, I want you to ask yourself one more question, and fill the rest of the white space in your circle with your answers.
How would I FEEL if I could do these things today?
When you are done, throw the date on that puppy and put it somewhere safe. We will revisit it next time we chat, but for now, don’t worry about how to make your dreams happen, just enjoy the dream buzz (or is that the wine?)
While you’re still on your dream buzz, I’d love to share my exciting news with you :)
Earlier this year, after I graduated from Brandi Lyons’ Certification program and had officially started De Frates Horsemanship, Mr. De Frates and I were talking business logistics but kept running into all sorts of limitations, so we took a step back and did a little dreaming of our own. Well...it took a while for all the pieces of the puzzle to work themselves out, but our dream is coming true!!!
De Frates Horsemanship is moving September 1, and we are opening up our very own training facility in Gilroy, CA right across the street from Red Fox Farm! I have dreamt of owning a ranch since I was a little girl, and our new property is a perfect combination of all of the dreams, big, little, and silly, that both Mr. De Frates and I have ever had, wrapped up in one pretty 10 acre bow :) There’s a lot of work to do (there are NO horse facilities currently), but if all goes according to plan, we will be fully operational in Spring of 2018 offering training, boarding, clinics, and lessons. We even bought a tractor to make quick work of all the construction!